Showing posts with label baby shower. Show all posts
Showing posts with label baby shower. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

top five: things new moms really want

Anyone who has tried to create a registry at Babies R Us knows that store is a totally terrifying place. When I was pregnant with Lorelei and Jason and I decided to register there, we had to plan an exit strategy for when his eyes started to pop out of his head. (I think it took about 50 minutes - luckily, I had made a list ahead of time so we could just run around the store with that price gun.)

But despite the aisles and aisles of pink and blue fluffy baby "must-haves" screaming "BUY ME!" you won't find anything you actually need for your new baby in a big box store. I'm not having a baby shower, but if I were, here's my top five list of what I would register for if only I could:

1. A freezer's worth of Trader Joe's everything. Barring TJ's, delicious meals prepared by loving friends and family, especially beyond the first two weeks post-birth. I can only handle frozen burritos and pizza so many times before I might start crying. Oh, wait - I'm already crying. Hormones!


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2. A maid. Okay, maybe not a live-in - but maybe two or three appointments during the first two months to do things like scrub the floors, sanitize the bathrooms, and anything else I'm not going to have time to get to. Which is everything.

3. A playdate for my older child that doesn't involve me. Come to my house and spend an hour tearing apart our playroom with my daughter and your child(ren) while I feed the baby and take a nap or a shower. Alternately, hold my screaming newborn for an hour while I get a chance to play with my toddler so she remembers who I am.

4. Gift certificates and subscriptions to Netflix, Hulu Plus, audible.com, iTunes, amazon.com, and anything else I can use on my iWhatever to stay informed, educated, and entertained during marathon nursing sessions. My brain is going to turn into mush anyway, but I might as well go down fighting.

5. A wet nurse. Or 6-pack abs. Surprise me.

Friday, May 31, 2013

how to throw a long-distance baby shower

A comment on my house tour post yesterday reminded me that I've been meaning to tell you about an unorthodox baby shower I organized for a dear friend of mine a few months ago!



My dear friend Stephanie is due to have her second baby - a little boy! - in just a few weeks, and when I was pregnant she and her mom organized a lovely shower for me back home in Minnesota. I knew I wanted to do something to celebrate her impending arrival, but I didn't know how to go about it...because she lives in London! (She and her family moved there shortly after her daughter's first birthday.) So, how to honor our guest-of-honor when none of us could actually be with her for a party?

I did some browsing online and couldn't really find exactly what I was looking for, so after a few email exchanges with some of Stephanie's close friends, I came up with an idea: invite Stephanie's nearest and dearest to shower her from afar by asking everyone to send something to her in the mail (or, as the Brits say, "the post") during a specified week so cards and gifts would all arrive around the same time. (I decided asking people to mail something on one specific day was just too tricky to coordinate - this way, people could make it work with their busy schedules). It seemed like a good solution when an in-person party just wasn't feasible, because Stephanie would still have the fun of lots of boxes and surprises to open all at once.

To make it seem a little more celebratory, I decided to send "party-in-a-box" invitations. Since Stephanie lives in England, I chose "afternoon tea" as my theme and used orange and blue as the colors for the boxes, since those would be the colors of the new baby's future nursery. I found some lovely tea party invites from Two Pooch Paperie on Etsy and worked to change the wording to fit my vision for the long-distance shower. I made sure to include very detailed instructions about when and how to mail a card or package but also included contact information in case they had questions.

I then purchased individually-wrapped silk teabags, tiny jars of clotted cream, and small packets of shortbread cookies and wrapped them up with tissue paper and ribbon so each shower guest would have a package of sweet treats to open and savor in Stephanie's honor.


I wanted the shower to be a surprise, but I thought it was important for Stephanie to know what to expect, so a week before the "party" was to begin, I sent the same package to Stephanie along with coordinating thank-you notes and a letter of explanation so she'd be able to see what everyone else had received and know what was coming.

It would have been much better, of course, to open presents and eat cake together, but I loved coming up with a fun solution for how to celebrate a beloved friend even when she's an entire ocean away.

Can't wait for her baby boy to come this month :) Thanks for giving me a much-needed creative outlet for my party-planning obsession, Stephanie!


Stephanie and me in 6th grade orchestra approximately one billion years ago - not my best photo ever, I must admit.